Processing Events and Emotions

We go through our days experiencing a myriad of emotions and experiences – what then, do we do with these feelings and happenings?

I’m the person who would tire myself out then go to bed. That way, I can avoid meeting my uncomfortable feelings and experiences face-to-face.

Failing to properly process our feelings and the happenings around us is akin to leaving our homes uncleaned for days, weeks, months or even years. The dust and clutter that build up become the very hindrance to our abilities to perceive our environments clearly.

Processing events and emotions is a difficult thing to do. It forces you to face the truths that you have been trying to run away from and it demands that you sit with all the emotions that you have been carrying knowingly or unknowingly.

This morning, I sat with myself and asked “how are you?” – a question that gets thrown around all day, everywhere. What if we tuned in to our body’s sensations, then dug into our hearts and souls to answer this question truthfully?

It’s a daily affair to have with ourselves.

Pausing Between Breaths Calm the Mind

Our breathing consists of four parts – inhale, pause, exhale, pause. There is a space between the inhale and exhale and being fully aware of that space is a convenient way of experiencing the spaces in between our thoughts.

The average person thinks about 50,000 to 70,000 thoughts per day – that’s up to 48.6 thoughts per minute!

The fewer thoughts we have, the more space there is between those thoughts and the more we can experience each moment “as is”, without distractions. The best way to slowly but surely experience those spaces, is to simply sit and watch the spaces between the breathing.

No judgement, no expectations, no need to even try to lengthen the breath or even sit up tall, only to simply take a moment to watch that space.

The Best Time to Meditate?

The best time to meditate is when you are rested, not when you are exhausted.

When you are tired, Yoga Nidra (Yogic Sleep) will be ideal – 30 minutes of Yoga Nidra is equivalent to 4 hours of sleep!

You will get the most benefits from meditation when you are fully focused and awake. If you sit down in quiet contemplation with a specific sankalpa (resolve/intention) you can clear your mind and settle your emotions, thus allowing you to see your thoughts and situation in a much clearer manner, without the disturbance of overwhelming emotions and distractions from the mind.

I’ve curated various meditation exercises under my Be Here Now Mindfulness Series. Pick one and stick with it for 30 days – you’ll find yourself being more present with the people you love, and you might just stop forgetting where you left your phone and keys!

Five Easy Ways to Zenify Your Bedroom

“What you surround yourself with, you become.”

We spend a third of our lives in our bedrooms, so shouldn’t our bedrooms be given high priority when it comes to design and feel?

I spent a few weeks experimenting on how my environment affects my inner world – my mental and emotional state. It was not a controlled test but there was one major turning point that convinced me that our immediate environment directly affects the inner world that we live in.

For a week, I kept my room clean by sweeping, mopping, wiping but I allowed clutter to pile up. I left endless things on the table, clothes on the shelf, bags outside the cabinet, and books at random places. At the end of the week, I had a strong urge to clear everything. After spending something close to two hours de-cluttering, I felt immensely light emotionally and mentally.

The moment I cleared my surroundings of clutter, my mental state immediately went from disorganized and frenzied to light and in control.

On top of using simple exercises like this 3-step meditation to clear your mind, here are five easy ways to turn your bedroom into your Zen haven.

1. Use earth colours

Shades of brown, light green, white, and blue.

2. Declutter, declutter, DECLUTTER

Throw away things you don’t need. Give things away. Have as little things in your room/house as possible

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Photo by Junkazamah on Flickr

3. Have minimal items on surfaces

Clear your tables of files, books, electronics etc. and keep them away in organized drawers.

4. Use soft lighting, play with dimmers

You know how yoga teachers dim the lights as we cool down towards the final resting pose, Savasana? That’s the calm and relaxed ambience that we want to have in our bedrooms.

5. Keep things simple and neutral

Avoid loud, colourful displays and decorations. You might also want to avoid having pictures that could evoke emotions in your room.

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Zenifying (this word doesn’t actually exist, I just made it up) your bedroom is a nice start to a more zen life. You could even add in some short and simple meditation techniques to start/end your day in your bedroom to enhance your mental and emotional wellbeing.

If you have other titbits on how to zenify your bedroom and life, please feel free to share 🙂

I’ll leave you with this beautiful, beautiful song: Lokah Samastah Sukhino Bhavantu, by Will Blunderfield

“May all beings everywhere be happy and free, and may the thoughts, words, and actions of my own life contribute in some way to that happiness and to that freedom for all.”